I am truly sorry that came across as judgmental. I really meant it when I said that I get that everyone in this story was in a world of pain. Of course being more present wouldn't "cure" anything, but it, unfortunately, is the only way forward in a healthy way. To deal with such difficulty - spinal cord injury, autism, unhappiness in a marriage- we have to be present for the feelings, rather than trying to medicate the whole thing away with alcohol and sex. This is in no way easy to do! To sit with the feelings of the pain of all of it is probably the most challenging aspect of this human experience... but it is the only way we can truly be in our life and navigate it in a healthy and, ultimately, fulfilling way. There aren't, sadly, any shortcuts. My sadness about the situation was genuine... there is a world of pain in this story, as well as a fantasy that the pain can be medicated away. Rather than the knowledge that being present for all of it's ugly, painful, hard, beautiful, humanness is the only way forward. I hope that feels better, and again my apologies for having sounded judgmental I was writing too quickly this morning